Resources by Laura

The Window of Tolerance describes the range where your nervous system can stay balanced, helping you think clearly, manage emotions, and respond effectively to stress. When you move outside this range, you may experience anxiety and reactivity or feel shut down and disconnected, both of which are natural stress responses.

With awareness and supportive practices, it is possible to gradually expand this window, building resilience and creating a greater sense of stability over time.

The idea of the “inner child” helps explain why we sometimes react more strongly than expected. In those moments, pausing to ask “How old do I feel right now?” can reveal a younger part of you that may need care or reassurance.

By responding with compassion instead of self-criticism, you can begin to shift these patterns and create a gentler, more supportive relationship with yourself.

Motivation isn’t simply reward vs. punishment. While fear or guilt can drive short-term action, lasting habits are more likely when rooted in personal meaning, self-compassion, and clear values. Shifting from “shoulds” to purposeful, curiosity-driven goals can lead to healthier, more sustainable change.

Have you ever wondered about doing EMDR therapy online? Here we answer what that looks like, what to consider, and how to get started with our Calgary therapists.

Learn what couples' therapy is and how you can get started with our marriage and family therapists in Calgary.

At Eclipse Psychology, we understand the allure of New Year's resolutions and the desire for personal growth. However, we advocate for a shift in perspective when it comes to setting goals for the year ahead. Instead of fixating on resolutions, which can often be unrealistic and leave us feeling like failures if we don't achieve them quickly, let's reframe our approach and focus on goals and intentions for personal development.

Over time, it is not uncommon for people to realize that they have drifted apart from their partners/friends or that they are tolerating hurtful behaviors. This realization can be disheartening, forcing individuals to confront the difficult decision of whether to continue with the relationship or to let it go.

Setting boundaries can be hard for many people, including myself. We struggle to find the right balance between our personal space and what others want from us. It's especially tough because we might not have grown up with clear boundaries. So when we try to set them with people who aren't used to them, they might react badly, making us doubt ourselves.

In our complex world, mental health has become a prominent area of focus, shining a spotlight on the significance of human connections. As the quote by Bessel van der Kolk perfectly captures, “More than anything else, being able to feel safe with the people defines mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.”

Self-care is indeed a concept that has gained much attention in recent times, particularly on social media platforms. However, it is important to recognize that the portrayal of self-care activities on these platforms may not always be realistic or achievable for most people. The "Pinteresty" image of self-care often presents a wide range of activities that seem appealing but may not fit into our busy lives.

Yes, therapy can be a place to explore and process and heal from painful experiences. But it can also be about the good things.

Let's redefine what "adulting" means. It's not just about ticking off a checklist of duties; it's about embracing our inner child and tapping into the joy that comes with it.

We learned we were only good enough when we were performing well and when we were being “good” children.

We learned we only deserved attention (read: attachment, connection) when we were “good” children.

Have you been told that you need to forgive the person who hurt you in order to heal?

Well I’m here to tell you that you don’t. Forgiveness is not required for healing unless it serves your healing process.

That internal voice that tells you that you are not good enough, not worthy, or not lovable, isn’t actually yours.

If we really want to destigmatize mental health, we need to destigmatize what it takes to heal and make change. We have made positive strides in destigmatizing the idea of mental health, but we need to go one step further.